What is My Secret?

Many people hear how many children we have and are shocked that I work outside of our home.  How do I get it all done and still sleep for at least 7 hours at night?  How do I manage so many little personalities at home and at work?  What is my secret?

Well, to be honest. there is only one secret that I know.  Trust God.

I have been a single parent with four children, worked and went to school.  My children (the first set) were taught the power is within them.  They know that on any given day, the will need to step up and be a good friend, a great listener and a strong leader.  These traits were taught to them early in their childhood not because I instructed them to be this way, but they saw how I interact with people.  The saw how elders are the pillars of the community and how to teach the generation behind them to be strong.

I am a married mother of eleven children now.  I have several bumps, and bruises from what has become my life as a mother, wife, sister, and friend.  I am not perfect, nor do I pretend to be, but what I know is this path is mine to walk.  And with my husband and my faith leading the way, how could this journey not be full of trials, and triumphs!  Laughter and insightful moments! Reflection and teaching opportunities.

We are parents that work outside of our home, have five children in private schools (check out scholarship availability in your area), and six grown children who lead lives that many dream of.  I am a basketball mom that makes trips up and down the east coast, when possible, but also know when I need to tag in a friend or family member for help.

There are many scary things that come with parenting, and working outside of the home is one.  We had to find a childcare provider we trust, find a transportation service we could afford, and find employment that would allow for some flexibility.

Reality is....when an opportunity of parenting is placed upon us, it is a gift!  Like Christmas or Birthday every day of your life.  Celebrate it!!!  Even when you don't feel like it....stretch and shake yourself out of the "muck" that can consume you if you allow.  You have to start your day with the thought of I CAN, I WILL, and CLAIM IT.  Claim your victory.  Even when you feel overwhelmed and defeated, claim your success!  Focus on your goal for the minute, hour, day.  You will be able to see how your attitude will influence not just your day but the day of your minis, spouse and loved ones.

I have many tips and tricks to help keep my sanity, and smiling is one tip.  Smile today and shine your light!